The classroom at Palolo Elementary School resounded with a happy din as eight high school students and 11 fifth-graders assembled for their final after-school mentoring session, supervised by adult staffers from YouthGrace, a local nonprofit organization.
The youngsters sat and rolled about in a wide circle on the floor, batting a ball rapidly back and forth while calling out the alphabet. As they played they joked and talked story, and wild hits produced excited screams from both the teenagers and younger kids. For an hour once a week, YouthGrace brings volunteers from a high school to mentor children, one on one, at a partner elementary school.
“We usually do some journaling with a prompt, like what dreams you have, or if you want to learn something new, what would it be — open-ended questions,” said Leilani Zbin, 18, a poised, clear-eyed student from Kaimuki Christian School. “We’re trained to mostly listen.”
Caroline Kerat, a tall 12-year-old in a yellow floral smock, stood attentively beside Zbin. Asked if they do homework together, “I help if she needs it, but she usually doesn’t and so we play,” Zbin said.
“Homework’s easy for me,” Kerat said.
For a moment, verdant Palolo Valley felt like Brigadoon: In a digital age, with schools emphasizing technical skills and in-person face time fading behind the glare of screens, here were children happily engaged in conversation, reading, writing and problemsolving, and play involving traditional books, pencils, paper, puzzles, board games and balls.
“We’ll never have a mentor bot, I’ll tell you that right now,” said Jay Jarman, YouthGrace executive director, who founded the organization in 2015 and is now re-branding it as Malama Mentors because the word “grace” has produced “a little bit of pushback from (Department of Education) schools we work with.”
The name change takes effect Monday. “We’re not religious, and we want to let people know that,” Jarman said.
The organization’s mission is to help develop confidence, motivation to succeed and relationship skills in children lacking close, supportive family and social networks, Jarman said. An exclusive focus on youth-to-youth mentoring distinguishes YouthGrace from volunteer organizations such as Big Brothers Big Sisters in which children are mentored by adults.
Because the mentors are themselves so young, YouthGrace serves grade schoolers who need extra attention but aren’t severely challenged.
“Kids with psychological or behavioral issues are too hard for high school mentors to handle,” Jarman said. “We succeed with ‘remote risk’ elementary school children — the lonely, shy, unencouraged kids.”
Jane Toyama, vice principal of Kuhio Elementary School, which pairs with Kaimuki High School in the YouthGrace program, said this fills a need.
“Our teachers recommend children who are withdrawn, have few friends, are from broken homes or latchkey kids. There may be a concern about their being bullied or (other) trauma, but they’re not at high risk.”
Sharon Salas, a Kuhio Elementary fifth-grade teacher, said of the program, “It’s helping my students talk to peers, opening them up more to sharing about their feelings and what they want to do in the future.” She appreciated that “they’re dropping tech for a moment to feel and listen to their surroundings.”
Something as simple as chatting while playing games, Salas observed, “gives them that human connection, that sense of belonging somewhere in the world versus being alone in cyberspace.” For example, she said, “It’s easy to tell somebody ‘I’m mad at you’ in a text